The PE Survival Guide: How to Tell Your Partner
Posted by Admin under Uncategorized on Thursday Aug 25, 2011As a man, sometimes it’s hard to remember that premature ejaculation does not only embarrass and disappoint you, but can be harsh and disappointing to your partner as well.
Premature ejaculation is a problem that every man has faced at one time or another, but when it becomes a chronic problem, many men don’t know how to talk it out with their partners, out of embarrassment, fear of losing them as a lover or companion, or just not knowing where to start with it.
Situations like premature ejaculation are where being in a committed relationship may help you the most. When you’re in a committed relationship, then you have the openness and are not embarrassed to talk about your most intimate problems in front of your significant other. There are many ways to talk about premature ejaculation with your partner, and this is where being in a committed relationship can help you the most. Attending couple-only therapy or counseling sessions may be the best bet if you have no idea how to confront the problem as a couple, but if you have an idea about the cause of your premature ejaculation, then talking to your partner one-on-one might be the best solution to try first, before trying other tips to last longer in bed.
One of the first keys to great sex is focusing on your partner’s pleasure. Likewise, if you decide to talk with your partner about premature ejaculation, then the first thing to remember is to not only talk about how premature ejaculation affects you adversely, but how it affects your partner negatively as well. Just think about it: when you experience premature ejaculation, intercourse has ended abruptly, often without any warning to your partner. Your partner may be slightly peeved, or even angry afterward at a variety of things- the fact that she couldn’t “finish” before you did, the fact that she’s not satisfied, or the simple fact that the sudden drop in emotion was like dropping her off an emotional cliff.
Perhaps you’re asking: “What’s the best way I can confront this along with my partner, instead of by myself”. Firstly, the best thing you can do as a “team” is to relax. Getting nervous or anxious because of the situation will do nothing for you but make matters worse. If premature ejaculation has been a chronic problem, then there are a variety of routines and exercises that can be done together as a “team”, before investing in a more formal medical solution, such as dapoxetine.
The most famous of these is what’s known as the “squeeze technique” or the “squeeze method”. This method was developed by the famous sex researchers Masters and Johnson. A couple should be warned- techniques like the squeeze technique take some practice in order to see results- don’t start these types of exercises unless you plan to “practice”, and be a little patient while “practice” is going on as well.
Brenton A. Gilbert is a freelance writer who writes about men’s health issues such as how to last longer in bed and erectile dysfunction. Much of his work focuses on the connection between health, psychology, and relationships. In his spare time, Brenton enjoys reading, painting, and in his words, “practical research and exploration of relationship dynamics with my wonderful girlfriend.”